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It's hard to stay positive.Isn't it?

Think positively is sort of my "cure". When ever I feel upset,down,sad etc..I just think of the good side,sometimes if I'm really upset I scream into my pillow (really helps). I usually don't stress my self about bad stuff,I just don't think of them,I think positively.But now it so hard to think like that,I mean now I see,there's no use in trying to see good in some people/situations,you just have to feel bad about it.And we all usually get the most upset about "love" problems.Now I can't find positive side in my love life.Guys I don't want they want me,and the guy I wanted I don't know what happened with him ( I could have him,but I didn't want him that way,he had girlfriend when he made a move on me ),so now I don't want anyone,and it's really annoying.Why just I can't find a normal guy?! And some so called "friends" talked behind my back..etc..So basically I just want to ask,do you have/had similar situations?How did you get trough?Sry if this is too long,I just need opinion.

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  February 05, 2012 VeronicaNelson

  it's alright to feel bad sometimes. i'm that positive type of person as well, but if you keep sliding your problems under the rug eventually they're going to come up and explode, and so will you. don't ignore all the bad, just find a way to deal with them without hurting your own feelings unnecessarily. there will always be fake friendships and stupid guys. but having people who are talking behind your back didn't make you stop believing in true friends, didn't it? so why stop believing there's a nice, genuine guy out there. i've personally been in CRAPPY relationships and i have this awesome guy by my side right now, and i adore him so much, but as a friend. and we've been best friends for such a long time. i think a girl needs someone like that, whether it's a girl or a guy, at least one real friend is something everyone deserves. and i can say i trust him more than i trust the girls i call my best friends. so, not all guys are shit and there's no need to bum yourself out about it. also, back to being positive in general: the important thing is that you find the things you shouldn't stress about at all, but don't ignore all the pain. find a way to release your anger and other feelings when you're hurt (like screaming into your pillow). obviously, your pillow is not big enough to swallow all your problems, so you should find more ways of coping with it all. good luck
  xo rony :)

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    dragana94

    Ofc I didn't stop believing in true friendships,it doesn't mean if one is bad that all are.But you're right my pillow isn't big enough,I should find one more way :) xoxo

    February 05, 2012