Mixed Feelings about a baby long story just kinda want to know your opinion

ok so a while ago i was talking to my friend about not feeling great and being sick & she surprised me with the question " are you pregnant?" and at first i was like freaked out like omg i cant have a baby and i couldnt be pregnant. so my friend in the mean time told my boyfriend that i might be without telling me. we talked and in the mean time he got all excitied and was like happy about that i might be then i took a test it said positive and itold him and we got really excitied even tho we were kinda scared about the whole thing & then i was like idk the sick feelings and stuff went away the following days & i took it again & it said negative & itook more &they said negetive at the doctors so im not pregnant just messd up apperently. but i kinda feel sad about it and i kinda wish it would have been positive.. so does my bf he actually cried about it lol hes a panzy btw

anyways is that bad that i feel like that ( sad & disappointed ) and that my boyfriend does too???

August 04, 2009

I agree with most of you. I honestly don't think we were or are really ready to have a child right now. We're both young he's in university and stuff and we don't have alot of money. and hes not even here at the moment hes in South Africa. Although i know if i was pregnant, we would make things work to the best of our ability and such. Your (generically speaking) right having a baby is a big thing it requires alot of time, money, effort, love, devotion and attention. It was probably one of the first things that came to mind, that i might not be able to provide for the baby. Although i still am dissapointed in a way that im not, i guess we both really thought it was happening, and then its kinda like what we wanted and thought was happening and acted as it was that when i found out i wasn't its like idk i talked to his grandmother about it and she described it perfectly, when she was young she had a miscarriage and she said that it was probably like that in a way. i thought i was, i was convinced i was, i honestly believed we were going to have a baby, and then suddenly its like it all got taken away. anyways, thank you for your answers they were really appreciated.

ps. My boyfriend isnt a panzy but is definitly more caring i think then my previous bf and guy friends. in a loving way, he is very caring and kind and considerate to everyone and myself. and he has the biggest heart anyone could have.

pss. me and my boyfriend are really young, if you haven't read on other questions., i am 15 well 16 in a few weeks and he is 18, 19 in a few weeks. yes theres like a 3 almost 4 year age difference. , but i love him to death and vise versa. been together forever lol.

psss. me and my boyfriend actually have 3 pets together, we love animals, we have a pet Parrot named jeeves, a dog names Copper, and a bat lol yes odd pet names battinson.

pssss. i really respect all young mothers and mothers in general, children are alot of work, enjoyable but hard work, and they are one of Gods best gifts.

psssss. my boyfriend and my friend are really close to me i met him threw her boyfriend. if that makes anysense. all 3 mean the world to me.

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Trusted answerer jessd
its not bad, you almost had a kid.. I think what you should do is sit down with him and actually talk about it.. Are you guys really ready? Is this what you want? Are you guys making enough money to support the kid.? Are you too young.?

Having a baby is a big thing.. and you should realy go over the things you need to take of before having one. Maybe you will decide to have one later in the future, to make sure if having a baby is what you want. 04 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

141 answers reverie_09
1) because he cried doesn't make him a panzy. Real men cry. (Just wanted to get that out there)

I don't know how old you are, but I don't think you know how much babies take over your life. I mean literally every minute is around and about them. My sister has 4 kids, her every minute is around those kids. She loves them to bits no doubt about it but I don't think you understand how much there is to do. They look cute when they're babies but what about when they grow up, and need money for field trips, new clothes, make up, ski trips, uniform, bus money, lunch money. It will cripple you. I understand if you want a baby now, I've felt like that too then I realised how much work is and thought no way!
Maybe if you and your boyfriend are together in a few more years and feel that you are more stable in your lives then sure, go for it.
Good luck girlie and sorry about the situation ^ 04 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

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Trusted answerer amaay
i agree with 'BarbiPiXi' (:
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Trusted answerer anca
I think it comes a point in everyone's life when they are ready for the changes we are all meant to pass through. I guess that is what is happening with you. You're ready to start your own family.
Hope it works out for you!!! 04 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

27 answers Storm
I think If you have a way of supporting it, then go for it. But kids take a ton of money, and you have to be willing to sacrifice a lot of things for them. If you think you're prepared to do that, then you're ready. 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0 Replies

Storm

I don't mean to be mean to Miss Muffin, but I don't think god prevents babies, just condoms. lol.
03 August 2009

1 answers smexy_muffin
i agree that doesnt mean your ready
god gives babies to those he thinks are ready and truthfully im not ready and im having twins but god doesnt give you things you arent ready to handle and maybe the reason your not having one really is because its not the time maybe it was just a test to see the outcome of if you really were but in reality its just not your time yanno.. dont feel bad but if you think your ready you minus will just try again.. 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

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Trusted answerer Auri
yeah i agree as well,
Maybe you guys are ready for a baby?

If you guys really think you want that, then why not try?
Im sure if you actually try to get preggo this time it will happen(:

And him crying is very sweet, meaning he really wanted it and seems as if you do too.

If you feel as if you want it, then def. go for it. Seems as if you friend and him are standing behind you on it.

Best wishes and luckk,
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232 answers Babiijuiciix3
no its not bad its normal thinking about having a little person to take care of that really needs you.... if your really sad and really ready why not try too or if you not ready or have a baby and have that sad empty feeling try getting a little animal if that makes sense .... its not bad to be disappointed 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0 Replies

Babiijuiciix3

i ment if your not ready to have a baby and have a empty space you might need to fill try to get a little baby animal
03 August 2009

17 answers tornjeansxo
actually !

I didnt think of that BarbiPiXi
shes right actually. haha 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

17 answers tornjeansxo
its not bad! i agree with HAYLEY__HAMM :] 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0

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Trusted answerer BarbiPiXi
whoa that does not mean youre ready for that step

lots of lil girls want a baby but that doesn't mean they're ready to actually care for one

of course you can be sad you aren't having a lil baby made from the love of you and your bf, but truthfully you have to think if your situation would be good for a baby. not if you WANT one.

babies take 100% of your love and devotion. they depend on you for everything and if you don't know what your doing or you can't support them you aren't ready

who's house was this baby going to stay at? who was going to take care of the baby when you 2 where at school? would you drop out? where would you live? with your parents sucking off them for YOUR baby?

i know accidents happen and we all make the best of those situations, but if you have a choice don't bring a new life into this world unless you know w/o a doubt that you are capable of giving the baby what they need

i'm sure you can tell i'm a mom and i love my daughter and i wouldnt' change anyting in the world from what it is now. but if i would have had her earlier i wouldn't be where i am now and i wouldn't be able to care for her like i do now

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221 answers HAYLEY___HAMM
its not bad! i think it means that u r ready for that step!!! 03 Aug 2009 / Reply answer / 0 Reply answer

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