kind of an awkward question... need an opinion..

well heres the thing. me and my bf have been dating for 9 months... and thing is im... god this is embarassing but yeah... im starting to want to have sex... he hasnt said anything to me yet cuz he doesnt want to pressure me so yea... i want to and i know im ready but thing is om only 14... and since thats young i might feel like a slut. i told myself id wait until i was 16 but this guy is my first kiss and love and i want him to be my first.. u know, but yeah idk what to do... advice?

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Trusted answerer fulltimepinklady
truthfully youre very young and if you do not know if you want to be with him a long time, then i would wait, its better to wait then be sorry. How many people do you know who wish they had had sex and didnt and how many people do you know who had sex and wished they hadnt? 21 Oct 2009 / 0

132 answers ahroarah
you win some and you lose some, i'd say. i lost my virginity at 17 and im still with the guy. however, my ex-best friend lost hers at fifteen, after a two year relationship, and they broke up. think with your head, not with your body for this one. are you ready to take on a kid? what would you parents say? everyone else whos answered really has it down. 21 Oct 2009 / 0

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Trusted answerer BarbiPiXi
lots of people wonder about things like that and it's normal. but acting on it is a totally different thing.

if you are willing to take a chance on becomming preggers or getting an std go right ahead. and no condoms are not 100% full proof

and yes just playing around in your undies you can still get an std or preggers depending on what's touching what

you're not a slut even if you do decide to not be the brightest crayon in the box and have sex early. if you go boasting about it and sleeping with all sorts of guys then yes you would be. but being that young i would just say you're not too bright and a bit curious 21 Oct 2009 / 0

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Trusted answerer CTL888
Wow, I still did not like boys at 14. I did not have my first boyfriend till I was 17. I was kinda picky. I would say use your best judgement. Too me I feel it is kinda young but, I can't say much because I am not You. 21 Oct 2009 / 0

19 answers hannah924
No. I don't believe in sex unless both partners are ready to take care of a baby. And a 14 year old is deffinately not ready. I know how you feel because I felt the same way with my first boyfriend, but waiting will be worth it in the long run. 21 Oct 2009 / 0

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Trusted answerer BethanyJL
Ask yourself this: are you ready to be a parent? because even with protection there is no 100% guarantee that you wont get pregnant. 2: would your parents agree? and if not what are their reasons. 3: Do you really want to give it all away at so young a age?

Plus when you get in a sexual relationship that's all you'll and he want is sex, and when a guy considers dating you, know that they're probably just dating you so they can sleep with you (its harsh but its true) cause when they know that they cant get sex from you then you can be pretty sure that they're dating you for you, and not sex.

And when your dating a guy that just wants sex, he'll get tired after awhile and dump you for some other chick. Your heartaches will increase big time. My advice is to wait. Cause once its gone, its gone. 21 Oct 2009 / 0

2 answers jeaninams03
All the advice I have to give to you is that I first had sex when i was 13, and got ditched by the guy right after...so you really have to use your best judgment on how much you trust the guy. Key into your instincts and trust your gut..and if you really want this guy to be your first. I can tell you from anyone i know, they arent with the guy they were when they were 14. we laugh at the people we dated when we were your age, so just really think about it in the long run is all I can say. hope this helped! 21 Oct 2009 / 0 Reply answer

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