Hi, I'm not sure what to do right now, and yeah, its about guys. I rly need some tips about wht todo

Lately I've been flirting with this guy in my new class, call him F, we've been talking on msn, and always with webcams. And I've also had contact with this other guy from england fr four months, call him S. Silly distance kinda relationship I knw. But hes special. And he is kind and nice, but so is F. But I can talk to S about everything, still shy around F, makes sense tho. A week ago i kinda confessed to S that he was that someone I liked thn. But then he got some friend problems, got all weird and rude for the last week. So I got confused, and started to talk more to F, flirting. And yesterday F was at my place, watching movies. Standard. I had a good time, and it wasn't that frightening as I was afraid it would be, fun actually. And we cuddled up in the sofa. And now it would probably end in an relationship if I don't do anything that will prevent that. Now I dnt knw what would be best, F is here, havn't met S yet, he is still money saving for a visit. Patience? give F a chance?

October 31, 2009

and now S apologized for his behavior and started to talk as normal. Is both an option? Would be such an ass if i did. Being with F and just talk to S as if nothings changed. What would happen when S finally got money to come for visit? Would I need to hide from F? Or break his heart? And what if I do break his heart, then find out that I rly don't have such feeling for S?
I know this is probably veery confusing with S here and F there, but I would be grateful if someone came with their point of view.

October 31, 2009

oh and I'm sixteen, so is F, and S is 17. If that kind of information is needed to understand

November 01, 2009

Thank you all for responses!

Update: I've decided to go with F, I think we are already in an relationship aha, we've been hanging out these days and so ^^

With S I'm just going to keep being friends, since we haven't really been flirting or talking anything serious about our feelings. And yeah, I don't want to waste time waiting for something that isn't for sure. But I don't want to lose him as a friend, because from what I've learned he is pretty helpful when needed.

35 answers yoshi_baybee
BarbiPiXi has a really good point!
although you have known S guy longer, you really haven't met him in person
and don't know him as much. on the other hand even though you don't know
F as much, you are getting to know him and know he isn't a sexual predator or something!

and plus commom i mean S lives miles away eventually he will find a girl in their area who he will have a interest in
i'm sorry hun but that happens all the time!

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Trusted answerer BarbiPiXi
i've been in the same boat.

but sorry you don't really know the guy you've never met. you only know a part of him. and many people feel more comfortable with strangers over the internet like that because of the idea that they are perfect. you can be yourself around them cause there is less of a chance they will make you feel ashamed for saying something.

also you can never be POSITIVE who you're really talking too. it's always best to deal in person. i've had 2 internet bf's one lived in canada and i stopped talking to him when i was actually asked to be a gf by a guy i was talkin to at school. i just stopped getting online as much and he moved on.

they usually do. the other was a boy in florida and i lived in TN. we talked online and he called a few times but once again i moved on when i met a person who was 'real'

don't feel obligated to a guy you've NEVER met. you may have things in common and he may be totally cool and sweet but you really have to think... y can't a perfect seeming guy get a girl at his own area?

there has to be something different that you haven't been told yet.

you know besides his intrest in porn lol 31 Oct 2009 / 0

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Trusted answerer fulltimepinklady
F is your guy. you dont know S except through online which can be dabgerous and even if he is normal and stuff it may not work out and you would end up losing out on both-wheras with F you could keep talking and hanging out wit hhim and see where it goes without having to totally compromise your time with S. and teh likelihood that it would work out with S is slim because you are young and there is the distance factor which really puts everything at a high risk for not working. couples that have known each other a long time then go off somewhere many times dont stay together...F is definitely the better choice. 31 Oct 2009 / 0

9 answers Dallas_Delusional
hm.. I would go for F.. S could turn out to be some uber crepp 31 Oct 2009 / 0 Reply answer

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